Good Friend should not be your Roommate?

Hello, Dear Reader,

It’s too expensive to live alone in NYC! Therefore, most of NYC newbies need 1-2 roommate to separate high rent. However, the roommate could be annoying or frustrating if you are not getting along well with them.

 

I had already picked my roommate before I came here. We have been knowing each other for almost ten years: we studied in the same middle school, high school and college.

 

Accidently, both our graduate schools are in NYC, so we happily chose to live together.

Everything started so well in the beginning.

 

We went shopping together every weekend and bought PS4 for our tiny place.

We cooked together and talked about some funny things that happen in school.

 

Everything seems so great when your roommate is also your best friend.

However, things start to change.

 

Because we study in different schools, our schedule is different.

 

He always stays up till midnight and sometimes plays PS4 before dawn in the living room Where I live.

Though he turns off the audio when he plays, the light of the screen still flashes me in the eyes.

 

Because I am not a good sleeping person, the flash makes me anxious and tired in the next day class, and I don’t know how to tell him about this without hurting his feelings.

 

I think he has the right to play the game whenever he wants, and he has already done his utmost ( turn off the light and audio).

We also have different friend circle.

Though I tried to bring them together and introduce my roommate to my friends, they seemed no connections at all and didn't get along well.

 

Sometimes I worry about not having face to face conversations as before.

 

I love my new friends, and I don't want to lose my old bud.

It's hard to balance all the relationship and keep them fresh.

Another problem is he always calls his girlfriend! Right now, when I am writing this blog, he is chatting with his girlfriend for THREE hours!

 

As a lonely bachelor in a foreign country, I feel sucked when I have to hear their conversation. And he doesn't realize what I feel, it makes me want to move out and live alone.

We still good friends though, it only needs more efforts not to let each other down.

Here are some tips I learn from my experience:

• Listening to each other is good for your friendship.

 

• Try to understand each other's feelings and show you're caring about him/her.

 

• Control your emotion and never betray your friend!

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Love you, guys!

NYC Newbies